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I am a barbarian… According to the “macho-man” who poses as Michelle Bachmann’s husband, I am a barbarian. I find that to be something of a compliment, since I have never been in a fight in my life–except during my military days when, frankly, I found myself expected to kill other people at the insistence of my homo-phobic government, although the people that I was expected to kill were probably equally homophobic. No one ever thought to call me that before. Lots of people called me a gentleman, a friend, a bit of a geek and many other things…but never a barbarian.

It sure seems to me that my friends were more accurate than Bachman’s prissy husband, but maybe I am wrong. Still, Michelle and her husband believe they can set me on the “right” – or “righteous” path. Read more about gay conversion therapy.

Movement to Provide Veterans Benefits to gay men and women discharged due to DON’T ASK DON’T TELL

DADT Repeal Mentioned Briefly by Obama

President Obama mentioned the repeal of Don’t Ask; Don’t Tell as one of his achievements in the state of the union address. Of course, many of us in the LGBT community wonder whether he will tackle other important issues related to us including repealing the so called Defense of Marriage Act and other federally mandated discriminatory laws and regulations.

DADT Repealed!

I hope you will take the time to write to Joe Solmanese (HRC), Senator Collins, Senator Lieberman and any of your own representatives who supported us in this effort! In my own case, I need to write three letters that are not quoted below.

In addition to the six Republicans who voted for cloture on the repeal bill — Sens. Scott Brown (R-Mass), Susan Collins (R-Alaska), Mark Kirk (R-Ill.), Lisa Murkowski (R-Alaska), Olympia Snowe (R-Maine) and George Voinovich (R-Ohio) — Republicans Sens. Richard Burr (N.C.) and John Ensign (Nev.) voted for the final passage of the repeal bill. Collins had co-sponsored the repeal bill.In a statement, Servicemembers United executive director Alex Nicholson said, “This vote represents an historic step forward for this country, and it will very likely be a life-changing moment for gay and lesbian troops.” Of course, the majority of Democratic representatives and senators supported the repeal.

Onward,

Joe Solmanese

I wrote an email to Joe thanking him for his effort, but I forgot to save a copy.

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Here’s what I wrote Senator Susan Collins of Maine:

Senator Collins,

Thank you for your support on the repeal of DADT.

I am a decorated Vietnam war vet who only had to lie one time about my sexual orientation. I am grateful that future men and women will not have to lie or hide at all.

I shall happily support your reelection effort albeit in a small amount and from out of state.

Sincerely,

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I reluctantly wrote this to Senator Joe Lieberman:

Senator Lieberman,

Thank you for your support on the repeal of DADT.

I am a decorated Vietnam war vet who only had to lie one time about my sexual orientation. I am grateful that future men and women will not have to lie or hide at all.

I write this because of the endorsement of the HRC. While I shall not have an opportunity to support your re-election, I wish you the best. Your courageous action in opposition to your new Republican friends almost compensates for your support of the hipocrite and newly extreme McCain.

Sincerely,

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Here’s the proclamation for the white house that so many of us worked so hard to elect the current president said: “Saying that they had been ‘focused’ on the vote, a senior White House aide intimately familiar with the administration’s ‘Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell’ repeal efforts was unwilling to say whether President Obama agrees with Majority Leader Harry Reid (D-Nev.) and Senate Armed Services Committee chairman Carl Levin (D-Mich.) that DADT-releated investigations and discharges should be halted immediately.” So, “our” president isn’t sure whether human rights violations should be halted immediately or whether they should wait. Hmmm.

Here’s my response to the White House upon learning that they may not enforce the repeal of DADT:

If the president is not willing to implement fully the new bill repealing DADT immediately I shall join any movement for a new nominee for the Democratic party’s nomination for President in 2011-2012. I am exhausted by my disappointment in this man.

Further, I encourage White House staffers to join me. Certainly the regret stretches far beyond Main Street even to the overworked staff (for what reasons?) on Pennsylvania Avenue.

“Yes we can” has become “we can but we won’t.”

Many of us have adopted the cry of ABO–anybody but Obama. If we take the ridiculous step to decide to vote for a Republican, at least we’ll get honest bigotry rather than the internalized hidden sort exemplified in our current president.

I am a dedicated Democrat, but only if we get true (small “d”) democratic results.

Currently:

universal healthcare = No
transparent gov’t = No
end war = No
military civil rights = No
reg. of big business = No
fair tax on wealthy = No
won 2008 election = Hell No

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We have a new gay news page currently concentrating on marriage equality, don’t ask don’t tell and homophobia headlines.

In our Pix Picks section, we offer photos of three attractive men (likely not gay) from the worlds of modeling, athletics and acting.

In the Coming Out Section for Gay and Bisexual Men, we have a new submission from a reader regarding self-identifying as bisexual as he learned to recognize his desires.

In the Society Section: A homophobic-hate tweet, a Three Part Essay On Homophobia and a few observations about Marriage Equality.Throughout Our Site: You’ll learn from the variety of perspectives offered by gay men, bisexual and bi-curious men. Our specialties are coming out and same sex relationships, including gay dating. We also provide (and welcome your) reviews of gay and gay-theme films and television programs.

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